Getting Along With Your Roommate
Connect with your Roommate Before Arrival
We encourage you to call or email your new roommate(s) before seeking out other forms of electronic communication. Social media is a great way to communicate, but it does not always provide the complete image of a person. Try to get to know your roommate(s) through more than just Facebook! If possible, try to meet your roommate(s) in person before move-in.
While it is important to get to know your roommate(s), it is also important to discuss room preferences prior to move-in to make the transition to residence hall life easier for everyone involved.
Agree on Expectations
Respect is the most important part of a roommate relationship. Maintain a healthy balance in your interactions. Not all roommates will be best friends; in fact, sometimes the best roommates are not. It is important to be honest during discussions about expectations. Both you and your roommate(s) have a right to feel comfortable and safe in the living space.
Discuss with your roommate(s) how comfortable you are with guests/visitors. Please refer to the HRL Guest Policy to understand the official guidelines.
Figure Out Your Styles
During chats with your future roommate(s), it is a good idea to discuss the following topics:
- Lifestyle: What do you like to do for fun? How clean do you keep your space?
- Nighttime routine: Do you like to go to bed early or stay up late?
- Study styles: Do you like to study with the TV or music on? Do you prefer to study at night or during the day?
Decide Who Will Bring What
If only one person is bringing an item, discuss whether it will be shared or for individual use.
Consider these items:
- Electronic devices
Living with a Roommate
Living with a fellow Golden Gopher can be a highlight of your experience at the U. Once you’ve moved in, it’s time to get to know your roommate(s). Grab dinner in a residential restaurant with your roommate(s) and other people living in your hallway. The beginning of the year is an exciting time to share your story and learn about your peers!
Community events are great opportunities to connect with neighbors. Ask your CA for information about upcoming events.
Roommate Action Plan
Housing & Residential Life believes that your roommate is not only someone with whom you will live, but also a partner in your success here at the University. To help you get to know your roommate(s) and build a strong foundation for your relationship, your Community Advisor (CA) will help you create a Roommate Action Plan. In this meeting, you will have the opportunity to share why you came to the U and what you hope to achieve while you are here. Your CA will also help you and your roommate(s) develop shared expectations around room use, sleeping patterns, sharing, guests, and cleanliness. Additionally, you and your roommate(s) will explore commitments you will make to help one another succeed.
Throughout the year, keep in mind that your CA will be available to help you revisit this conversation or update shared expectations. Your Residence Director is also available to partner in your success with your roommate(s).